Triggers are moments when your past comes into the present. It is a flashback, remembering ancient memories as if they were happening right now. Along with the memories comes all the sensations felt with the experience. A moment where one lives parallel timelines, warping back and forth with what may feel like no control, between the then and now. Triggers are mobilized by one or more of the five senses: sight, sound, touch, smell and taste. It is a personal experience that varies for everyone.
The work we do can be overwhelming and triggering at times and it is so vital for us to engage in self care to process and honour our own healing journeys. So when we started talking about another team outing, it only made sense that we incorporated self care (considering all that's been happening in the world) and share the day with some of the community partners that have loved and supported ANBU over the year.
ANBU has the honour of meeting astounding people that give their time, skills, and heart for the betterment of our community. These are few of the wonderful souls that contributed to our ANBU TEAM RETREAT!
Thank you My Cure Fitness for allowing ANBU to use the space for our team retreat.
Relaxation was followed by the wonderful creations of Fusion by T. Pratheepan filled our hearts and body with the most delicious food filled with so much ANBU! The perfect end to our perfect retreat!
Madura's grounding spirit helped the team relax and settle into our bodies.
Her classes are incredible. Check her out at Advaita Movement
Lastly, for ANBU Canada, we are hosting an event in February 2018 and we are looking for ARTISTS!!! We are getting hit everyday from all angles with stories upon stories of sexual violence. Let's use all the emotions that arise from this to create! Through your tools, emote the impact of sexual violence, the strength, and resulting growth. To find out more info, please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org
ANBU UK UPDATES!!!
November was a big month for ANBU UK!
We started off the month with our first fully Tamil outreach sessions with parents of Tamil school children in Walthamstow. ANBU volunteers Arathi and Nim spoke in Tamil about childhood sexual abuse discussing the importance of child safeguarding and encouraging open, honest and non-judgmental dialogue between parents and children. They then conducted a sit down Q&A with parents after the presentation. ANBU UK looks to follow up with a workshop session in the new year with the parents.
We then had one of our biggest events so far. ‘Open Conversation: The Taboo of Sexual Abuse’ Hosted by Kings College London and Southampton University Tamil societies
We had a great reception of over 150 students. It was a full evening consisting of role play, presentation and discussion with a panel of professionals from psychology, legal, medical and mindfulness professions. We also heard powerful survivor stories from Jumani and Vathanee.
Here is a clip of Vathanee’s story in spoken word:
We're thinking up ideas for more follow-up from the event in addition to the published Q&A's taken from anonymous Q’s received from the evening. You can view the full set of Q&A's HERE
We’ve also included a couple here:
Q10: Its been so long since the incident happened, I think it’s selfish on my behalf to tell parents now
Answer Q10: By trying to protect your parents for so long when you yourself needed support and protection shows that you are far from selfish. You must remember that you were young and deserved to be taken care of, if not telling your parents is something that is still affecting you, then it might be useful to find a good time to do this.Abuse can impact our adult lives in ways that are not always obvious, in behaviours and our motivations. A large part of ‘feeling stuck’ in adulthood can be about not fully accepting what has happened in the past and not being able to move on in the present. If it’s impacting your life now, the abuse may be having a bigger impact on your life than you think. Reflecting on your past is sometime required to move on, and it’s important to draw upon your support network to help you through that process, which may include your parents.Again, we would stress the importance of self care and taking care of yourself when disclosing. Knowing that you may get a reaction you may not like and thinking about how you would manage this beforehand may be beneficial.
Q59: Do you think a survivor would be seen as weak if they choose to forgive the perpetrator?
Answer Q59: Each survivor needs to make their own journey and do what is right for them – no-one should judge another person for how they make that journey. For some survivors, forgiveness of the perpetrator is one outcome, but not for all. Everyone is different, and should be respected for the courage and strength they show in facing what has happened and healing.
On November 27th, we remember our fallen brothers and sisters. Let's take a moment to honour those that have sacrificed their lives for the liberation of Tamil people.
If you are a survivor or the loved one of someone that has been impacted by childhood sexual abuse and want support, give us a shout! If you want to share your story, send us a message and we would love to amplify your voice. Anonymous entries of all sorts are welcomed too.
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