February 2017

ஆதரவு (Ātharavu)

The type of support ஆதரவு (Ātharavu) one receives to an intimate disclosure such as childhood sexual abuse lays the communicative foundation for various relationship dynamics. A survivor’s decision to disclose or not to disclose impacts their mental health. Speaking about it generally decreases distress and physical symptoms, while silence is correlated with increased physiological activity and risks of physical disease. However, disclosures coupled with negative responses lead to worsening of emotional and physical symptoms. All indicative of the magnitude support has on our well being.
*Resources: Arata, 1998. Pennebaker, 1985)

So how can you provide support?
Watch our video on support and give us your feedback.

ANBU Video Series - SUPPORT ஆதரவு (Ātharavu)
A port of entry for support - ANBU.
SUPPORT ஆதரவு (Ātharavu)

What have we been up to?

Thank you to all of you that participated in our survey. The results are in for analysis and will be shared with you soon.

Some of our folks at ANBU stood against White Supremacy and Islamophobia on February 4th 2017.
Tharshiga went on air with Matt Galloway to talk about ANBU and our video series to address childhood sexual abuse. We are thankful to get a digital feature here.

The ANBU Video Launch and Community Gathering was covered by the Tamil Guardian.
The interview with Reshanthy V. from South Asian Dialogue, Rogers TV is finally up for viewing here.

ANBU is feeling blessed to partner with OCASI's Immigrant and Refugee Communities Neighbours, Friends, and Families Campaign to deliver two projects in 2017.

Childhood sexual abuse is a global issue. Jenny and Tharshiga are working with Delane Cooper, a talented jewelry designer, to continue raising awareness in novel unique ways that touch the various gifts we possess. You can learn more about this project and show your support here. Connect with Delane:

ANBU was signed into existence on March 8, International Women's day. We will be celebrating ANBU's first birthday with an intimate event writing to our own - for both our inner child and the children on the land we came from who have/are struggling with the same. Stay tuned for more information. Space is limited and registration is mandatory.


We invite you to send in any questions you may have regarding child sexual abuse. This section will be dedicated to answering all your curiosities. We will not be sharing any names to respect your anonymity. Send us your questions to
Last month, ANBU released a self-titled book to help break the silence around childhood sexual abuse in the Tamil community. Through the stories of five brave survivors who shared their experiences with trauma, healing and resilience, this book sheds light on the realities of what it means to live and thrive as a survivor. Check out the full story about the book here!
Following the successful launch of the ANBU video series in Toronto, the videos have undergone some fresh edits and are now ready for the UK audience. The primary focus for ANBU in the UK will be outreach, letting people know we exist, it happens, and we're here to support survivors and the community. We also plan to run an information session to grow the UK team and recruit volunteers. If you would like more information on outreach sessions or would like to volunteer and are based in the UK, please contact:
ANBU is incredibly thankful for all the amazing folks that reached out to support us. Each one of you are indicative of our capacity for collective care and transformation. ANBU is currently looking for folks in the legal field and/or skilled in grant writing to join our team. If you've seasoned in these areas and heart with our voice, please send us your CV along with a statement telling us why you want to volunteer for ANBU.
If you are a survivor or the loved one of someone that has been impacted by childhood sexual abuse and want support, give us a shout! If you want to share your story, send us a message and we would love to amplify your voice. Anonymous entries of all sorts are welcomed too.
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“To love. To be loved. To never forget your own insignificance. To never get used to the unspeakable violence and the vulgar disparity of life around you. To seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. To never simplify what is complicated or complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never to forget.”

- Arundhati Roy

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