February 2017

One More Day

February is a strange month.  Shorter than the rest of the months, with an extra day every four years.  I personally love the evenness of February, I like that it splits into four perfect weeks, I prefer when it is not a leap year.  But that one extra day every four years is enough to keep our seasons lined up with the calendar.  One day can really make that much of a difference.  And I think that once you have grieved the death or loss of a loved one, or know that a loved one is nearing the end of their life, the idea of one day being enough to change everything really sinks in.  

This month, our featured article focuses an intriguing question.  Guest author Eleanor Haley discusses the idea of being able to trade a year of your life for one day with a loved one who had died.  While totally hypothetical, it really gets you thinking about what you would give for one more day, and how you would spend it if you were given the opportunity.  And maybe the article will also get you thinking about the things that you'd like to do now while you do still have the time with the loved ones still in your life.

One More Day: What Would You Do?

By Eleanor Haley

I recently stumbled on the results of a study conducted in 2009 by Comfort Zone Camp.  They polled 1,006 adults who had experienced a death, many of them as children.  They asked them all sort of questions and their findings were really interesting.  

One finding in particular struck me far deeper than any of the others though, as it revealed the response to a question I find impossible to answer.  It stated…

56% of respondents who lost a parent growing up would trade a year of their life for one more day with their departed parent.

One year for one day, what a fascinating bargain.

24 hours…1440 minutes…the thought is intoxicating.

I can see it now.  The day is a perfect 75 degrees and a gentle breeze is blowing through the big oak tree in my backyard.  My children are on their best behavior and my husband is in a delightful mood.  My mother and I spend the entire day on my patio drinking Crystal Light (her favorite).

We talk all day long about meaningful things.  She tells me secrets I never knew about her and shares all of her wisdom.  I tell her the things I’ve always wished I’d said and I recount all the times I’ve wondered ‘what would mom do’.  I tell her I never took her for granted.  She tells me she’s proud of me.

I hear her voice.  I feel her embrace.  She meets my children.  She sees that I’m okay.  We sit in silence during that beautiful time of day right before the sun goes down and neither of us feels uncomfortable or impatient.  As the sun starts to slowly set I look at my mother and suddenly think….OH MY GOD I ONLY HAVE 4 HOURS LEFT!!!   Read More...

If I could be sick for you for Just One Day

A heartwarming story about the desire to give the gift we cannot give--to take away pain and illness from those we love. This precious story takes you through a journey from rollercoaster rides to walking in the grass barefoot to smelling flowers and playing in the snow. It is a gift book that the recipient will never forget. Full-color, water illustrations used throughout.   Shop Here...

I Think of You Every Day

We may not always know the right thing to say or the right thing to do when the people we care about are hurting. Sometimes the greatest gift in difficult times is letting them know we are thinking of them and that we love them. This book encourages us to reach out to those who are hurting. We don’t need to say or do anything extraordinary…we just need to be ourselves and be there for them.   Shop Here...

One More Day

by Diamond Rio

Last night I had a crazy dream
A wish was granted just for me
It could be for anything
I didn't ask for money
Or a mansion in Malibu
I simply wished, for one more day with you

One more day
One more time
One more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied
But then again
I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still, for one more day with you

First thing I'd do, is pray for time to crawl
Then I'd unplug the telephone
And keep the TV off
I'd hold you every second
Say a million I love you's
That's what I'd do, with one more day with you

Hole in My Heart

Simple, solid-colored ceramic hearts with a small hole to represent the hole that one feels is in their heart following the loss of a loved one. These hearts are perfect for individuals who want to show that they are not "complete" and someone or something is missing in their life. Also makes a great gift for a grieving friend or to share with a support group.   Shop Here...

Daily Prayer for Times of Grief

As fixed-hour prayer gains in popularity among Christians of all persuasions, it is only natural that they should want to adapt this ancient practice to particular life circumstances. Drawing on her own experience of losing her young husband to cancer, in this poignant offering, Lisa B. Hamilton accommodates the practice of fixed-hour prayer for those who mourn.   Shop Here...

Quote of the Month

Part of me knows one more day won't do anything except postpone the heartbreak. But another part of me believes differently. We are born in one day. We die in one day. We can change in one day. And we can fall in love in one day. Anything can happen in just one day.   Gayle Forman

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