You aren't alone
I hear it all the time - the horror stories of Laid Off experiences and the challenges of looking for work in the current "employers market" in Calgary. It might look different for you but it's pretty common to get stuck in a rut of disappointment and paralysis of what to do next. It can feel overwhelming when you look at the employment statistics, compare yourself to other job seekers or even judge yourself with your own expectations ("I thought I would be working by the Spring, I can't believe I'm still looking.."). With comparison comes disappointment, we never measure up, and it's common to start to lose hope.
How do you know when you are stuck in a rut?
One of the first indicators might be how you've changed behaviours, maybe dropped your time for your self care, pursuit of passions, contact with friends and increased the amount of time being indoors. On the job search you may find yourself putting less energy into in-person networking, less attention to the cover letter... essentially doing more of the same but getting no positive results. Does this sound familiar?
How do I take back control?
I believe it starts with noticing - ahhh, I'm less enthusiastic, less hopeful, less creative with my job search (disclaimer: my perspective!), noticing I've been avoiding looking society in the eye. Awareness is crucial and a very first step to change. Acceptance is a close cousin to awareness, and that may sound like a passive position but accepting the current circumstances AND the reality there is still choice you have from exactly this point forward, it really does provide freedom. You don't have to stay stuck.
What does all this look like in a Laid Off Calgary peer support group meeting?
Our facilitators actively engage with these concepts in Laid Off Calgary group meetings:
- Cultivating awareness by checking in - what do you observe/notice/feel?
- Acceptance - it's a given with our community agreements, through listening to each other we don't judge and hope you don't judge yourself either. The agreements are there to provide a safe container for each other. It is up to you to take what works for you from each meeting.
- New information is presented - by the wisdom of the group and co-facilitators on a range of topics. This helps you to develop more self-awareness and inspire positive change.
- Finally, what is your take-away from the meeting, do you need additional resources? We ask you to notice how you feel now and what are you going to do going forward.
The diagram below shows a little more about the meeting format but if you are curious, stuck in a rut, feeling a little lonely (or a LOT lonely on your job search), or would like to hear one of the facilitators speak, or just want a free chocolate I encourage you to sign up for any meeting you wish to attend.